i think i've posted a couple of times that Charlotte has started at a little Montessori school in our area. Right now they are ages 12 months through 6 years (the last year is Kindergarten and is state-licensed, etc). Montessori uses typically 3-year cycles. There are currently 2 age groups: 12-36 months and 3 years through Kindergarten. This year they have purchased a new building (which is actually RIGHT by our house, probably less than a mile walking distance although there's a very steep, curvy hill and it's probably not the safest walk for a young one) and will be expanding. The current building will open an infants classroom, and the new building will open a transitional classroom for kids between 2-3 years or so who need a little more stimulation than they're getting in the toddlers class but aren't quite ready for the preschool/Kindergarten class, and also the preschool/kindergarten class. NEXT fall 2011 they are starting a grades 1-3 classroom also.
The new building is an old daycare facility that's changed hands at least twice since we've lived here (4 years). It needs a lot of work, and they've asked for parent volunteers. We've been so busy the last 2 weekends that we couldn't really help out, but we will this weekend. But more importantly (to me lol), the director has asked for volunteers to help design the playground equipment at both buildings. Something you probably don't know about me: What i REALLY want to be when i grow up is a playground designer! In college i did my senior engineering project on playground design. It was so much fun! So i certainly volunteered, and i spoke with the director this evening when picking Char up, and she was excited, too. Her vision is as natural a play setting as possible, and i think i'm up for the challenge. i've already jotted down 2 pages of typed, bullet-point notes of elements of playgrounds and thoughts on how to achieve this in a natural setting. i'm pretty excited about it!
So i've had time to digest my little meltdown last week. i try not to blog much about work, but the truth is that's where the majority of my angst is coming from at the moment. Don't get me wrong; in this economy i am THRILLED to have a job and a steady paycheck. And the money is pretty good, so no complaints there. The problems, though, are pretty numerous:
1) i don't utilize my brain or my talents - most days i don't have enough to do, and even when i do it's not much of a challenge.
2) There's no opportunity for growth - don't misunderstand number 1. There's a TON i could learn and grow and improve, and the experience could really benefit the company i work for. Unfortunately, i'm not included in any potential for growth or experience. i'm not invited (despite asking numerous times) to meetings where i could learn about different elements of the company. i've asked to cross-train and repeatedly been denied. My title is "Analyst" but i am not asked, or even allowed, to analyze anything. i just collect data and hand it to my boss, who "analyzes" it (or more often does nothing with it).
3) i'm not appreciated - my boss has said "good job" or the equivalent twice in 2 and a half years. i get the distinct impression from his boss that no one has any idea what i'm capable of, or for one reason or another they don't care. (i hate to call sexism but from what i'm seeing, it fits). i got what i consider a crappy performance review after my first year there, and i was told the reason was that i didn't have the experience to really do better. Okay, i can live with that. But this year, i got the same exact performance review. i was told it was because they didn't expect to give raises this year and "management" in my department had decided to keep everyone's review from the previous year. i'm sorry, but i REALLY have a problem with that. i think it's wrong on a number of levels, not the least of which is that they are holding me back from a promotion potentially by making me look like a crappy employee when i'm really not. Or, i shouldn't be, but try as i might, i can't get ahead.
i've applied out four times since April 1. Three of the four i should have a pretty good shot at (of course there's always a chance they have someone in mind for it and posting it is just a formality in their minds, but surely not 3/4 of them). The fourth is an engineering job but frankly i don't have the right kind of experience for that job. i have not even gotten an interview for any of these jobs! i don't know what's wrong with me, my resume, whatever, but it's really starting to hurt my confidence, especially when coupled with the rest of my work woes. Two of the jobs are essentially what i do now, just for other departments. Why the heck can't i even get an interview for the equivalent of the job i have now??? Aaaaah!
4) And last but not least, there's the fact that, at least on some level, i've received 2 demotions this year. First there was the "employee stratification" or some BS term. Different departments had different tier structures (some paygrades were letters, some numbers, some a combination, etc, with different titles to go with it). They decided to level out the different groups and make them all equal. In doing so, they "flattened" the titles, and i have been lumped into a category lower. Then one of my two coworkers in my little department was moved out (which was a blessing in many ways because she's absolutely nuts and impossible to work with), but in doing so, i was given her job. Which is much more menial. In many people's eyes, i've lost credibility by taking on lesser tasks and i HATE IT!
And on a related note, because i have only one other coworker in my basic department, it's a race as far as she and i are concerned to get out of the department. Her job is a step up from mine, but i don't want her job. It's not really any more challenging than mine, and i know i would be "stuck" doing my menial job and hers as well. And while i have a job i applied for a few weeks ago out there (and since i haven't been called for an interview, i've just about lost hope), she's applying for one today (her second since April; the first she got but our boss "blocked" her; this one she cannot be blocked because it's a promotion, though i guess she has less chance of actually getting it). i want her to succeed, but i am really scared what happens if she leaves.
One possibility is i would be offered (or encouraged to apply for) her job, which would technically be a promotion but because i'm near the top of my pay grade, would not result in more money most likely and i would be "stuck" in the job for at least 12 months, but more likely 2 years as most people wait 2 years before applying for other positions. So i would be faced with taking the job i don't want and getting stuck, or explaining why i don't want it and being faced with the question of who would take her job, and would i really have her job elements without her title/pay grade? OR another possibility is they never encourage me to apply for her job (or i apply and they give it to someone else) and dealing with the fallout of knowing for sure that my boss/his boss/HIS boss truly don't have any confidence in me, as i suspect. And in my gneeral area i don't know anyone who can actually do the job. i know someone who WANTS her job, but i am positive he couldn't do it, at least not out of the gate. So likely even if i didn't accept the job or if it weren't offered to me, i would end up doing the job at least in the interim and actually probably training someone else to do it. Sounds like fun to me!
i could leave the company and look for a job with another company. And i give it a cursory look every so often. But i don't know if i really want to leave the company, and its relative job security, in the current economy. And i would feel at least a little guilty taking a job from someone who doesn't have one right now.
And here's how i will tie the above vent into the Montessori conversation in the beginning of this enormous blog post: i freely admit that i am a "praise junkie". It really bothers me, way more than it should, that my boss doesn't give me any praise or positive feedback. i KNOW i'm smart, and i KNOW that (at least when given the opportunity) i work hard, and i do a good job. i KNOW this. But when it isn't acknowledged by others, it hurts. Especially after years of it. And THIS is why i love Montessori. Montessori is all about instilling intrinsic value of learning and of work, rather than kids relying on extrinsic rewards like praise, treats, grades, etc. i don't want to raise a child whose self-worth, whose happiness even, boils down to whether her boss (or her mommy) approves of her actions. i want her to do things she loves because she loves them, not because someone said, "Good job, Charlotte!" i want her to look at her own opinions of herself and her work as being at least as important, preferably more important, than what authority figures, even i, think of her.
i can only hope that i succeed at least a little bit.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
Refreshed
This weekend was indeed very nice. The Y took great care of our girl and we didn't even make her cry when we left. We saw "Inception " which started off slow but picked up pretty well, and when we picked her up at 9:45, someone was walking around holding her and Char was clutching a sippy cup full of milk and would not let go LOL. She then slept until 8:45 am which is totally unheard of. I have a sneaking suspicion they may have given her Chik-Fil-A despite us saying not to, but I.do.not.want.to.know.
Sunday was nice, sleeping in until 8:45. The in-laws came early though so we had to rush LOL. We went out to see Eclipse which was better than I expected actually.
I had a couple of run-ins with SFIL but nothing too extreme. He had a conniption over Char playing with a drink spoon from Sonic and I got a lecture about why Char hasn't had her 1 year appt yet (2 colds And a pedi on vacation for 2 weeks) and how she should be on a multu-vitamin. I exacted my revenge by holding Char upside down over my back saying, "Where's Charlotte? Have you seen Charlotte?" Sadly the heart attack was metaphorical.
More pictures soon, I promise!
Sunday was nice, sleeping in until 8:45. The in-laws came early though so we had to rush LOL. We went out to see Eclipse which was better than I expected actually.
I had a couple of run-ins with SFIL but nothing too extreme. He had a conniption over Char playing with a drink spoon from Sonic and I got a lecture about why Char hasn't had her 1 year appt yet (2 colds And a pedi on vacation for 2 weeks) and how she should be on a multu-vitamin. I exacted my revenge by holding Char upside down over my back saying, "Where's Charlotte? Have you seen Charlotte?" Sadly the heart attack was metaphorical.
More pictures soon, I promise!
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Apology
i apologize for my little meltdown on Monday. i guess that happens to everyone once in a while. At least i hope i'm not insane :). i'm feeling a lot better today after a couple of better days. Charlotte pulled a child's hair today but nothing like on Monday (not malicious, they said), and no further biting, no hitting. Yay!
She's also eating a crapton! Tonight she shoveled BROCCOLI of all things into her mouth. i offered her steamed broccoli, steamed carrots (these 2 were a pre-processed organic meal since outside of adding ranch dressing i'm not much of a veggie seasoner), a plum, and about 1/2 a banana, and she actually preferred the broccoli! Very little spitting food out or dropping it on the floor. She ate all the fruit, almost all the broccoli (which was a cup of broccoli/carrots total!), and about 1/2 the carrots. This is a LOT of food, and no fussing or fighting, which is a huge relief. She ate a huge breakfast, too, of a veggie patty, blueberries, organic cheerios (Publix brand lol), and some yogurt. She didn't get a morning snack because of the size of breakfast plus she slept late. Lunch was spaghetti at school and she ate it ALL. Then for a snack she had veggie dog and some cheddar cheese cubes PLUS a few cracker sandwiches with sunbutter and pumpkin puree. Holy wow! This is great; maybe she's growing or even over the hump of the texture issues.
This weekend should be nice. We're taking Char to the Y's Parents Night Out which is monthly i think, and from 5-11 pm, which should give us time to go to dinner and a movie. Of course we won't stay out until 11 but it will still be fun :). AND my mother-in-law asked to babysit on Sunday so we may go out to another movie again. Yes, i will feel tremendous guilt, but since we haven't been out since Christmas, i'll just tell myself that we may not get to go out until Christmas again lol, so we'd better take advantage of it. She'll live, and we'll just go to a matinee on Sunday so she should only have 1 night of jacked up sleep because of it... hopefully. i would bet we'll see the Twilight movie one time, but not sure about the other. Suggestions?
So, like i said last time, i really don't know what to write about anymore and i feel pretty lame about it. Sorry if i check in less frequently...
She's also eating a crapton! Tonight she shoveled BROCCOLI of all things into her mouth. i offered her steamed broccoli, steamed carrots (these 2 were a pre-processed organic meal since outside of adding ranch dressing i'm not much of a veggie seasoner), a plum, and about 1/2 a banana, and she actually preferred the broccoli! Very little spitting food out or dropping it on the floor. She ate all the fruit, almost all the broccoli (which was a cup of broccoli/carrots total!), and about 1/2 the carrots. This is a LOT of food, and no fussing or fighting, which is a huge relief. She ate a huge breakfast, too, of a veggie patty, blueberries, organic cheerios (Publix brand lol), and some yogurt. She didn't get a morning snack because of the size of breakfast plus she slept late. Lunch was spaghetti at school and she ate it ALL. Then for a snack she had veggie dog and some cheddar cheese cubes PLUS a few cracker sandwiches with sunbutter and pumpkin puree. Holy wow! This is great; maybe she's growing or even over the hump of the texture issues.
This weekend should be nice. We're taking Char to the Y's Parents Night Out which is monthly i think, and from 5-11 pm, which should give us time to go to dinner and a movie. Of course we won't stay out until 11 but it will still be fun :). AND my mother-in-law asked to babysit on Sunday so we may go out to another movie again. Yes, i will feel tremendous guilt, but since we haven't been out since Christmas, i'll just tell myself that we may not get to go out until Christmas again lol, so we'd better take advantage of it. She'll live, and we'll just go to a matinee on Sunday so she should only have 1 night of jacked up sleep because of it... hopefully. i would bet we'll see the Twilight movie one time, but not sure about the other. Suggestions?
So, like i said last time, i really don't know what to write about anymore and i feel pretty lame about it. Sorry if i check in less frequently...
Monday, July 12, 2010
A vent post
Trust me, i feel guilt over the fact that it's been less than a week and i should still be posting happy posts about the adoption and our family, etc etc, but the truth is, today i just can't. Today is just one of those super sucky days where i feel like the worst parent in the world and the fact that i'm posting this instead of something happy makes me feel that much worse. But i desperately need to vent.
i've had a headache for over 2 weeks straight. Some days it's full-on migraine, and some days it's not quite as bad. For 2 days it's been pretty bad. It was also 80 degrees (literally) at my desk at work today, which does not help a headache. And luckily i wasn't too busy but i wasn't busy enough. Char was up 5 times last night, so i fear that she's about to start teething again. The last bout was hell.
i go to pick her up, and the teacher tells me that she was absolutely rotten today. She bit a teacher, pulled 2 little kids' hair, including pulling out a big chunk of one kid's hair while they were sleeping!!!, and was messing with everyone's snack. In short, rotten. And she spent some time in time out during lunch and only napped 30 minutes and didn't eat super well. So i feel like a crappy parent for sure.
So we leave and of course she falls asleep about 1/2 a block from home. So i went home and ran in to let the dogs out and grab my computer. i HATE it when she falls asleep in the car because it messes with my schedule, and when my schedule is messed with is when my autism shows :(. i get prone to meltdowns, so i started to hear my shark music already. Duh-nuh, duh-nuh, duh-nuh duh-nuh. Sigh. Then i get my computer started up to find that the battery is dead. Duh-nuh duh-nuh. Shoot me. i went and got gas and she woke up while i was pumping, so about 25 minutes total.
So i took her upstairs with a bottle and rocked her back to "sleep". Only of course as soon as i put her down in her crib, her head pops up and she opens her little beady eyes. i gently laid her down and patted her back 4 times. The fifth time she started to look like a whack-a-mole game, so i left and let her talk to herself in her crib for 10 minutes. When she didn't wake up but rather started heavy fussing, i went and got her. Oh, and did i mention i cried? A lot.
So, we cuddled on the couch a while. Well, honestly my heart wasn't in it. It just wasn't. But "fake it til you make it", right? i tried anyway. i admit i put a "Dora the Explorer" DVD in, which is the first time she's seen a cartoon, and it interested her for exactly 90 seconds. Sigh.
We made it through dinner and after dinner to bedtime, but with a lot of crying. From both of us. i hate feeling like a failure and i hate feeling like a bad mom. It's all i've ever wanted to be and i'm not very good at it. And what's really getting to me today is that i/we have absolutely no support system. My mom is dead, the last time i asked my dad for help (to just let me stay in one of his spare rooms for the afternoon when i had a very high fever and the a/c was being replaced that day) he said no, my MIL lives 100 miles away (and more importantly is married to someone who has NO problem criticizing everything i do as a parent), and i don't feel like we can call the few friends we have for help with day to day stuff. They all have family in the area who watch their kids, but we don't. And with them having their own kids, i don't know. i just don't know. i just know i really miss my mommy and i feel like i'm letting her down every single day of my life as a parent and that sucks so bad!
Oh, and MIL/sFIL are coming on Sunday to tell me how sucky i am. It should be a blessing to have them visit Charlotte but it's always overshadowed by all the criticism. And i just don't know how to address it. It's always small things that seem silly to make a huge fuss about. (And yet HE does, i just don't feel like i should.) Example: Char has a little wagon that she used to push around when learning to walk, and we still take her for rides on it. She knows how to hold the edges and sometimes she zooms fairly quickly, but sFIL saw us pushing her not even near top speed and kept saying, "Not so fast! She'll put her foot down and get it caught under the wagon and break her leg!" We said, "No, she's had this for months and she knows how to ride it. She's fine." Ten seconds later he was saying, "Guys, slow down. She's going to break her foot!" Seriously, every time. Short of literally telling him to STFU, i don't know how to get him to STFU!
i actually feel a bit better having gotten that off my chest. i know you're thinking we need to get out more, but seriously we don't have any support. i know it's true as i realized the other day that we haven't been on a date since Christmas!!!! But we don't have a sitter, and i don't know if i want to hire a stranger. This Saturday we're going to use the YMCA's night out service (it's monthly i think, which should be enough), so that's good. And this past Saturday i got a therapeutic massage and that was really nice, but then i feel guilty for leaving Char with Alan all alone when he wasn't feeling great (and it was compounded by me taking a nap after the massage, so the guilt was doubled). But that's not even the big thing. The big thing is days like this. i don't even have anyone "in real life" to talk over the hair pulling/biting/etc issue that happened at school today. If i did call someone i would seriously think they would make me feel worse. That's usually what happens when i talk to my sister anyway. That's about the only person i have. (And she, too, is 100 miles away). i already know my brother would say it's because i don't spank. My dad would say "i don't know anything about that." And that's all i have.
By the way, this brings up a good question. What should i do with this blog? It was a foster/adopt blog with some parenting stuff thrown in. Aside from rants and rambles like today, i really don't think i can mommy blog. And no way would anyone want to read this repetitively! Eek! i'm open to suggestions, as long as you don't call me a sucky mom.
i've had a headache for over 2 weeks straight. Some days it's full-on migraine, and some days it's not quite as bad. For 2 days it's been pretty bad. It was also 80 degrees (literally) at my desk at work today, which does not help a headache. And luckily i wasn't too busy but i wasn't busy enough. Char was up 5 times last night, so i fear that she's about to start teething again. The last bout was hell.
i go to pick her up, and the teacher tells me that she was absolutely rotten today. She bit a teacher, pulled 2 little kids' hair, including pulling out a big chunk of one kid's hair while they were sleeping!!!, and was messing with everyone's snack. In short, rotten. And she spent some time in time out during lunch and only napped 30 minutes and didn't eat super well. So i feel like a crappy parent for sure.
So we leave and of course she falls asleep about 1/2 a block from home. So i went home and ran in to let the dogs out and grab my computer. i HATE it when she falls asleep in the car because it messes with my schedule, and when my schedule is messed with is when my autism shows :(. i get prone to meltdowns, so i started to hear my shark music already. Duh-nuh, duh-nuh, duh-nuh duh-nuh. Sigh. Then i get my computer started up to find that the battery is dead. Duh-nuh duh-nuh. Shoot me. i went and got gas and she woke up while i was pumping, so about 25 minutes total.
So i took her upstairs with a bottle and rocked her back to "sleep". Only of course as soon as i put her down in her crib, her head pops up and she opens her little beady eyes. i gently laid her down and patted her back 4 times. The fifth time she started to look like a whack-a-mole game, so i left and let her talk to herself in her crib for 10 minutes. When she didn't wake up but rather started heavy fussing, i went and got her. Oh, and did i mention i cried? A lot.
So, we cuddled on the couch a while. Well, honestly my heart wasn't in it. It just wasn't. But "fake it til you make it", right? i tried anyway. i admit i put a "Dora the Explorer" DVD in, which is the first time she's seen a cartoon, and it interested her for exactly 90 seconds. Sigh.
We made it through dinner and after dinner to bedtime, but with a lot of crying. From both of us. i hate feeling like a failure and i hate feeling like a bad mom. It's all i've ever wanted to be and i'm not very good at it. And what's really getting to me today is that i/we have absolutely no support system. My mom is dead, the last time i asked my dad for help (to just let me stay in one of his spare rooms for the afternoon when i had a very high fever and the a/c was being replaced that day) he said no, my MIL lives 100 miles away (and more importantly is married to someone who has NO problem criticizing everything i do as a parent), and i don't feel like we can call the few friends we have for help with day to day stuff. They all have family in the area who watch their kids, but we don't. And with them having their own kids, i don't know. i just don't know. i just know i really miss my mommy and i feel like i'm letting her down every single day of my life as a parent and that sucks so bad!
Oh, and MIL/sFIL are coming on Sunday to tell me how sucky i am. It should be a blessing to have them visit Charlotte but it's always overshadowed by all the criticism. And i just don't know how to address it. It's always small things that seem silly to make a huge fuss about. (And yet HE does, i just don't feel like i should.) Example: Char has a little wagon that she used to push around when learning to walk, and we still take her for rides on it. She knows how to hold the edges and sometimes she zooms fairly quickly, but sFIL saw us pushing her not even near top speed and kept saying, "Not so fast! She'll put her foot down and get it caught under the wagon and break her leg!" We said, "No, she's had this for months and she knows how to ride it. She's fine." Ten seconds later he was saying, "Guys, slow down. She's going to break her foot!" Seriously, every time. Short of literally telling him to STFU, i don't know how to get him to STFU!
i actually feel a bit better having gotten that off my chest. i know you're thinking we need to get out more, but seriously we don't have any support. i know it's true as i realized the other day that we haven't been on a date since Christmas!!!! But we don't have a sitter, and i don't know if i want to hire a stranger. This Saturday we're going to use the YMCA's night out service (it's monthly i think, which should be enough), so that's good. And this past Saturday i got a therapeutic massage and that was really nice, but then i feel guilty for leaving Char with Alan all alone when he wasn't feeling great (and it was compounded by me taking a nap after the massage, so the guilt was doubled). But that's not even the big thing. The big thing is days like this. i don't even have anyone "in real life" to talk over the hair pulling/biting/etc issue that happened at school today. If i did call someone i would seriously think they would make me feel worse. That's usually what happens when i talk to my sister anyway. That's about the only person i have. (And she, too, is 100 miles away). i already know my brother would say it's because i don't spank. My dad would say "i don't know anything about that." And that's all i have.
By the way, this brings up a good question. What should i do with this blog? It was a foster/adopt blog with some parenting stuff thrown in. Aside from rants and rambles like today, i really don't think i can mommy blog. And no way would anyone want to read this repetitively! Eek! i'm open to suggestions, as long as you don't call me a sucky mom.
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
It's official :)
i almost can't believe it, but it's true! Our girl Charlotte is really OUR girl Charlotte! Her name is Charlotte Claire Faith, and we're a little proud. The finalization went through fine, though we were last on the docket because of our attorney's little mistake. Sigh. Poor Char was tired of sitting relatively still for about 90 minutes that when we went into the court room she would NOT be held quietly by us while we testified for the judge! i had to walk her around and our caseworker made her laugh, but it was hardly the solemn occasion it probably should have been ;). The judge gave her a Blow Pop which she loved sucking on... with the wrapper still on it lol. i told her when she's four she can find out what it actually tastes like.
Here's a couple of pictures of us in front of the courthouse today (and maybe a few others sprinkled in here and there):
Friday, July 2, 2010
Beyond frustrated
At the permanency hearing today, Alan went by the clerk's office at the courthouse. They told him that our case hadn't been processed today. It *might* be processed by 3 pm, but it might not. If not, it could still happen on Tuesday for a Tuesday court date, but we wouldn't find out until...Tuesday. Which means we will both have to take a vacation day and wait at the courthouse with a hyperactive toddler to find out for sure.
We called our attorney, and we called our adoption worker. And at 3:00, our attorney said that he called the woman at the clerk's office at 2:45 who said she was on the phone and would call him back, but he was leaving at 3:30 so he hoped she called before then. Super.
Nothing at 3:30, so Alan walked to the courthouse again and talked to the clerk's office. Still nothing. As he was leaving, he got a call from the adoption worker, who was able to at least shed *some* light on the situation. Apparently there is some discrepancy about a piece of paperwork called an addendum to the petition. i don't know if that means that our attorney didn't file the addendum and it's needed, or if there was something wrong with it, or what exactly. We certainly didn't find any of this out from our attorney, who didn't work past 3:30. However everyone seems to think it can be resolved first thing on Tuesday.
So as of now, we are to report to the courthouse at 9:00 am on Tuesday morning. i fear that we'll be last on the docket because of this, and therefore it may be lunchtime before we go before the judge (and 3 hours trying to amuse a very active toddler makes me shudder, but we'll survive, somehow...), but at least it seems *pretty sure* to happen.
But boy, i am so over this attorney.
We called our attorney, and we called our adoption worker. And at 3:00, our attorney said that he called the woman at the clerk's office at 2:45 who said she was on the phone and would call him back, but he was leaving at 3:30 so he hoped she called before then. Super.
Nothing at 3:30, so Alan walked to the courthouse again and talked to the clerk's office. Still nothing. As he was leaving, he got a call from the adoption worker, who was able to at least shed *some* light on the situation. Apparently there is some discrepancy about a piece of paperwork called an addendum to the petition. i don't know if that means that our attorney didn't file the addendum and it's needed, or if there was something wrong with it, or what exactly. We certainly didn't find any of this out from our attorney, who didn't work past 3:30. However everyone seems to think it can be resolved first thing on Tuesday.
So as of now, we are to report to the courthouse at 9:00 am on Tuesday morning. i fear that we'll be last on the docket because of this, and therefore it may be lunchtime before we go before the judge (and 3 hours trying to amuse a very active toddler makes me shudder, but we'll survive, somehow...), but at least it seems *pretty sure* to happen.
But boy, i am so over this attorney.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Still nothing
Ugh! i was really hoping we'd find something out by now! She had told someone (i forget if it was our attorney or adoption social worker) that she would look at the file today, so Alan shook the tree today, but still no answer.
There is actually a court date tomorrow. Ridiculous really, IF we finalize Tuesday, but now i'm grateful for it. It's a permanency hearing, at this point basically just a regularly scheduled periodic update to make sure the case is still progressing. It seemed pretty silly to have it 1 business day before the adoption lol, but now we'll hope the magistrate asks what's going on and Alan (i'm not going) will be able to say that the court clerk hasn't told us if we'll be finalizing Tuesday or not. And maybe, just maybe, the magistrate will be able to tell us.
Sadly, it's already too late for my sister to be able to come. She doesn't want to take the day off from work if it's not for sure (she's asking for a raise lol), and her boss is off tomorrow and Monday. So, no go for her. She is going to come up for a day trip Monday though, so that should be fun. She's so sweet to come all the way here to visit.
There is actually a court date tomorrow. Ridiculous really, IF we finalize Tuesday, but now i'm grateful for it. It's a permanency hearing, at this point basically just a regularly scheduled periodic update to make sure the case is still progressing. It seemed pretty silly to have it 1 business day before the adoption lol, but now we'll hope the magistrate asks what's going on and Alan (i'm not going) will be able to say that the court clerk hasn't told us if we'll be finalizing Tuesday or not. And maybe, just maybe, the magistrate will be able to tell us.
Sadly, it's already too late for my sister to be able to come. She doesn't want to take the day off from work if it's not for sure (she's asking for a raise lol), and her boss is off tomorrow and Monday. So, no go for her. She is going to come up for a day trip Monday though, so that should be fun. She's so sweet to come all the way here to visit.
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